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Reasons To Reflect Before Saying Sorry

Reasons To Reflect Before Saying Sorry

It's important to apologize when you've done something wrong or hurtful, but there are situations where saying sorry may not be the best course of action. Here are reasons to consider before apologizing:

• You don't have anything to apologize for.

• When your responses and/or apologize is a trauma response.

• You're not responsible for someone else's feelings.

• The situation wasn't your fault.

• The other person is trying to manipulate you.

• You're being pressured into apologizing.

• You don't want to admit fault when you didn't do anything wrong.

• The other person has a history of taking advantage of your apologies.

• You don't want to appear weak or submissive.

• The other person is being unreasonable.

• You've already apologized for the same thing multiple times.

• You're setting boundaries for what you will and won't apologize for.

• The other person is trying to make you feel guilty.

• Apologizing won't fix the problem.

• You're worried that apologizing will make the situation worse.

• The other person is being overly sensitive or dramatic.

• You're afraid that apologizing will undermine your authority or credibility.

• The other person is being abusive or manipulative.

• You're protecting your own self-respect and dignity.

• The other person is trying to make you responsible for their emotions.

• You're making a conscious decision not to apologize and that's okay.

Here are a few books about the topics "Sorry":

1.) Sorry (Really Sorry) by: Author Joanna Cotler, Harry Bliss

2.) The Power Of Saying Sorry : The Remarkable Influence of a Sincere Apology

3.) I Feel Bad About My Neck by: Author Nora Ephron

**These books are not sponsored**

Remember, apologizing is important in certain situations, but it's also important to recognize when you don't need to apologize. Trust your instincts and make the decision that's right for you.

Loveli Brown


"Being able to articulate your feelings, wants, needs, and desires is the best way to advocate for yourself. This all starts with a conversation". Loveli xoxo

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